Punishment?

[ChurchofVirus]

Thanks again. I'm definatly trying. As I said before I'm not a dom, I always want control but I'm not the dom type, but I do believe it is in me, so getting down the role is the hard part but I'm working on it. I need to spend more time with her discussing our roles more, because she has years of experiance and she's my best source of education. She's a switch so I'm considering suggesting she take the dom role here and there so I can learn from her actions, though that'll be wierd for me cause I'm definatly not a sub.

To everyone who has responded to this tread, thanks a ton. For a guy who never knew really anything about the scene who has jumped in head first, feedback and information are a godsend. This is a great community and I'm glad I managed to find it. Your all really awsome!

[MasterC]

well, What I did(Mine was the same way), is I thought of some rewards to give her when she does particularly well. These make her realize you are pleased, and most all subs/slaves live to please their Doms. they help to keep them striving to do good. Asfar as punishment, there are soo many options besides pain. Mine loves pain, but HATES to be bored. So recently I made her stand holding a coin against the wall with her nose for 2 hours. Trust me when I say it was very very effective. The key is to find something she does not enjoy for punishment.

Some subs require a firmer hand than others. It sounds like you need to dig deep inside and find the confidence you have to have to take control of the situation. If your trying to spank her on the ass, and she resists,and you strike her leg, she'll get the point quick enough. You just can't give in to her struggling. As long as she knows she can make you quit, she will keep it up.