That thing that killed the cat

[Timberwolf]

The idea that a "natural Dominant" is one who is able to behave and command a certain way in "vanilla" environments like work is totally flawed. There are many, many subs who are the ones in charge at work, and are totally comforatable as such.

[Dragon's muse]

The idea that a "natural Dominant" is one who is able to behave and command a certain way in "vanilla" environments like work is totally flawed. There are many, many subs who are the ones in charge at work, and are totally comforatable as such.

There are a good number of people on the charity committees and boards that i am on who would not believe in a million years that i could ever be submissive in any way. They would probably laugh themselves silly at the very idea. They might even think me in terms of being "naturally dominant". Now there's a hoot.

muse

[mina]

The idea that a "natural Dominant" is one who is able to behave and command a certain way in "vanilla" environments like work is totally flawed. There are many, many subs who are the ones in charge at work, and are totally comforatable as such.

well i mentioned a natural Dom would be someone who was a leader, took charge......i wasn't talking about jobs really.

Me neither. There ARE people who are dominant in a lot of their day to day activities in the vanilla world, not just talking about "work" here. These people are called control freaks. I know several of them. This is why Master and my uncle don't get along well LOL. Now that's not to say they're total assholes or anything (well... my uncle is an asshole for other reasons lol), but they just naturally assume dominant positions in everything from conversation to playing sports, are basically the "leader" amongst their friends, and usually enjoy being the center of attention.

Now what if someone was like this but preferred to be submissive in sexual situations? I'd still say they had a dominant personality, yeah. So for my own personal use of the term, someone who likes to Dom in a BDSM sense and is dominant in a lot of other ways outside of that, I'd call them a "natural dominant".

[MasterBluePrint]

I personally believe that it is only the Dom himself that truely knows whether or not he/she is natural as it would be with being a natural submissive. It is a term that I have used before because I feel as though this is how I want to live my life, learning seems a natural process to me when it involves D/s but it doesnt feel natural at all when its Science or Maths Therefore I embraced this lifestyle and find it comfortable living within it, probably why Im a 'natural' Dom and not a scientist or Maths teacher!

BP

(rambled a little and may not make sure but can find it difficult to describe my thoughts)