That thing that killed the cat

[Ozme52]

I've noted a fair number of women who call themselves subs, act as "service tops" to their submissive men. Must be frustrating.

[Psynymph]

well i mentioned a natural Dom would be someone who was a leader, took charge......i wasn't talking about jobs really.

every great Dom i've ever had the pleasure of meeting always had this aura about Him. His job could consist of anything but He just commanded respect with His attitude. Never having to utter one order.....the respect was just there. i've never had the opportunity to meet a Domme unfortunatly.

*sigh* lol maybe i have no freakin clue what i'm talking about......

thanks Tojo....although i'd perfer being slapped on the hand...or other place

[Dragon's muse]

I've noted a fair number of women who call themselves subs, act as "service tops" to their submissive men. Must be frustrating.

It is a strange thing about me, i can "top" another woman, IF it is on direct order from Dragon (though i always feel a bit silly doing it). i do not find that frustrating because even in topping i am obeying Him.

At a group a few weeks ago, someone brought up the topic of what a slave would do if ordered to "top" his/her Master. i came to the conclusion that my head would probably explode.

muse

[Mishka]

I've noted a fair number of women who call themselves subs, act as "service tops" to their submissive men. Must be frustrating.

Very frustrating.

I am in control and in charge, by necessity, of everything in my life. When I get into the bedroom I am all about pleasing. He gets off, I get off because he did. There's more to it. I didn't decide to be a submissive, I just have a word for my feelings now. I am capable of dominence, but I don't enjoy it.

I imagine a dominant could feel the same way. The dom/domme needs this, it fulfills them, satisfies them more than anything else. I'm new to all of this, I don't claim to know the mind of a Dominant, but just some thoughts.