That thing that killed the cat

[Havensov]

/\Now thats just wrong/\

Ok, my three cents...

I would call myself a natural Dom for a few reasons, some of which stated here. One, even if at my day job i do not control or supervise allot of people, i do control the entire network of computers. I think that control is part of the reason that i went into this field. Two, as stated here in my hobbies i am still very dominant and command allot of respect in the Ren Faire circuit in MI (also, i like to bet he center of attention, but thats for egos sake). Third, even before we adopted a formal D/s relationship with my wife i was still very dominating in bed, and from what i have been told always have been.

But i would like to pose a new question around this. When i am in control of my sword fighting group, or all of he entertainers at a Faire, or even in the bed room i do so..... kindly? Heres what i mean, all of those individuals, as mature as they are, respect me, and follow me not because i bark orders at them or even because of my position in the group. They follow because they want to, because of the way i treat them with respect and never loss my temper and can even make a heated argument seem controlled. Am i making sense?

Ok, so, in my D/s relationship i would consider myself a "soft natural Dom" By this i mean that i do not have to whip my sub into submission (except when though thats what she wants) but she submits because of the way i carry myself, the words that i use, and can control her with the softest touch.

Ok, i think that makes sense.

Ok, so is there a difference between "Soft Dom's" and "Hard Dom's"?

Thoughts?

[Pet_Amanda]

I feel that a good natural Dom is a person whos presencs says it all. My Master has that. All he has to do is look at me in such a way that I know what he wants and when/where he wants it. I also know by a look if I have done something wrong. My Master just has an overwelming presence that scream Dom.