Advice to a submissive on proper attitude and thinking.

[MasterRok]

If the sub doesn't obey then are they being honest with themselves about who and what they are? If the submissive wants to show spirit and independent thinking are they trying to get attention even if it's punishment or are they not true to the submission of themselves? It doesn't happen overnight with some to be submissive, but if you are a true sub then the independent thinking won't cause you to disrespect the dom's wishes.

[ks17]

I agree completely. I serve my Master without question, but that doesn't make me any less independent. When I'm honest with myself and my Master I go against His wishes when I am looking for attention, usually in the form of punishment. He understands this. There's nothing wrong with me being independent and spirited in His eyes as long as I am not disrespectful or dishonest with him. Anyway, in answer to your question, I think whether the behavior is right or wrong really depends on the Dom/Master and what He/She expects from you.

[silver_one {Leaman}]

I agree completely. I serve my Master without question, but that doesn't make me any less independent. When I'm honest with myself and my Master I go against His wishes when I am looking for attention, usually in the form of punishment. He understands this. There's nothing wrong with me being independent and spirited in His eyes as long as I am not disrespectful or dishonest with him. Anyway, in answer to your question, I think whether the behavior is right or wrong really depends on the Dom/Master and what He/She expects from you.

Ks,

Thank you. I've really had a terrific eye opener since I joined this site, my whole attitude about a D/s relationship has changed, I agree that in part it's up to your Master, but in truth, isn't it an agreed upon, unique to each of your personalities, tolerence of behaviors?
Am I still heading the right way?