"Murkier (and more difficult) is regular old average person-to-person trust. I have long marveled (and often disbelieved) at those in polyamorous relationships who say that their trust is absolute and that jealousy is not an issue. " thank you! and have a nice day.
It's possible, but where would I be if I let that stop me? It's also possible that I'm not as pretentious as you think I am. Or as you are. Or neither, or both! No matter the case, you just keep proving my points with your abrasive (and sufficiently domly) responses. What I'm getting at is that even if I'm entirely wrong in my point of view, it doesn't mean we can't have a laugh at our own expense. As for those who suggested forum threads--I may just start doing those, so look for them in the future. R
[quote]For all of my flailing and ranting, the reason I take the time and effort to write things like is that I hope, deep down, that I can improve the experiences of those around me.[/quote] [quote]I feel like my input, (not because it's mine but simply because I'm not seeing it elsewhere) could potentially lead to *more* enjoyment for the members of chat.[/quote] This is your mistake. Your level of presumption to having developed some utopian, Code of Hammurabi-style chat method is off-putting. [quote]I'm going to post this in both the forum post and as a blog comment in an effort to spur more dialogue.[/quote] It really is not worth further discussion, it's the same elitist railing against horny chat addicts that has been done a thousand times before. You are absolutely mistaken that it is even worth talking about. [quote]It seems ironic to find so little humor in a community centered around open thought and acceptance.[/quote] It's [I]possible[/I] you're less funny than you believe.
LMAO..i am no fan of chat... just for the reasons that are all here stated....i go because its part of the library..and i enjoy the library.... I go to watch and laugh heartily. Sometimes there is someone their is enjoy saying hello to or something said that i will respond do.... If you go to yank peoples chains...then expect to get smacked for it...don't whine about it... So if you wanted to start a discussion about this why didn't you post this in "general"...and see where it goes....instead of in a blog??? If you want to talk to people without all of the sudo moronic chat fucking....why not interact with people in the forum threads???...why not start your own threads for discussion.....
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I like your thoughts. on the whole I agree with what you say. Even down to the 'reasons for being in chat'. I have personally found it a little slow and uninteresting on the grounds that I dont go there to pick up a fuck, but I go there to 'chat'. It very much depends on the group of folk that are there when I arrive if I stay and join in. Sadly being a fickle female, I am easlily bored and even more easily distracted into an intelligent discussion in the forum. That being said, I have got to know some awesome people by chatting to them here so I guess there is some truth to all sides of this discussion. Having been here a while I am happy to say the 'whispers' asking me to bend over and take a spank from a total stranger who has done nothing to introduce themselves, have stopped. This in itself is a huge relief because I was seriously running out of rude retorts, having exhausted the polite ones in the first week. At the end of the day we all need to lighten up and respect each other as equals, human beings, Dom's and subs, individuals whom all have an opinion to which they are entitled. I do agree with Thrall though...go and write something, you have a great way with words. Use them to make the environment we share a better experience
@ Rachel: Exactly my point, though. I can certainly laugh at myself in any situation--engaging in imaginary sex via a chat room is, on one hand, fun--but on the other hand, it's sort of silly. I simply was hoping that the constant repetition of the same behaviors by the same people might be identified and admit that "hey, yeah, that's sort of funny, in a way". Honestly, however people want to get off is cool with me--if capitalizing pronouns gets you wet, fantastic; I am simply of the frame of mind that this lifestyle (along with really any other lifestyle or hobby) bears a certain amount of absurdity, and recognizing/embracing that can lead to *more* fulfillment. @ Thrall I go for precisely the reasons I said above--I find it entertaining and interesting. I do have at least some respect for nearly everyone there, and even count some of them as friends--that's exactly why I do what I do. I feel like my input, (not because it's mine but simply because I'm not seeing it elsewhere) could potentially lead to *more* enjoyment for the members of chat. Are my methods sometimes obtuse? Sure. But life is short, so you have to wring every last drop of pleasure from it that you can. Sure, the bdsm chat might be good for some people--that's fine--what I'm saying is, ask yourself: could it be even better? For all of my flailing and ranting, the reason I take the time and effort to write things like is that I hope, deep down, that I can improve the experiences of those around me. They don't have to take my advice--I am simply offering it to taste and sample, buffet style. R
OK.......i was there.....i was it all happen....And did you see me behaving like that????...no i don't think so. want a tip... stay out of chat......is it annoys you so much..why go... this is a huge site..... try the forums... try fun and games... try writing something.... thrall
Well, I wouldn't have said it quite this way, but I agree with a lot of your comments. I don't really care what other people call each other, but for myself I do find that titles and forms of address can be overused and lose their meaning. I also like a more spontaneous use of titles and capitalization, that possibly conveys more genuine feeling. At least for me. On the other hand, while I don't do a lot of chat, for a bunch of reasons, I can certainly see that people - especially if they're in the mind frame you describe, which is what? foreplay - might not want to be corrected or laughed at. Imagine if you were in actual foreplay and someone did that to you. Maybe you should just, you know, leave them alone.
I could not love you more if i tried, you amazing thing you <3
Why should Chat accommodate itself to your perceived standard? Enough people obviously enjoy the facility to flirt there and if it's not your thing, why blame them? Why not just communicate in the forums? You can be as intelligent and thoughtful as you like there.
And an excellent flame it was! You're right on many accounts in your response, and less than right in some others. That said, even though you disagreed with my points and found my tone distasteful, your response was well-thought out and very funny. My happy response: 1. The Marine corps can do whatever they want--the grunts aren't throwing Sir around because they think that if they do, the CO might fuck them. Well, most of them aren't, anyway 2. CNN should have the story up on their front page by now. I can't figure out what the hold up could be. 3. While I don't think I'm as big a deal as you think I am, (and am only an amateur primatologist), I can see how I can come across as an egoist and an expert in the latter. 4. We'll have to wait for the Jury, I suppose. Yes, I make fun, and no, I don't blame anyone for taking offense--but it seems ironic to find so little humor in a community centered around open thought and acceptance. So, yes, I think that I have a greater understanding of basic written English than the average person on the site (non-native speakers excluded, although I often find their understanding better than native speakers), something I take purely from my experiences in Chat--I make it a big deal because I think it's indicative of a greater malignancy in our community. And yes, I think my viewpoint is valid (if not superior), considering our "lifestyle" is one in which a core value is the practicality of every action and word, whether for enjoyment, relationship-building or training purposes. I feel like insincerity undermines the entirety of the BDSM system of behavior. Thanks for your response--open dialogue about whether I'm onto something or whether I'm just a crazy asshole was exactly what I was hoping to accomplish. I hope you'll respond again, this time looking into the meat of my post, rather than just at its author. R PS--I'm going to post this in both the forum post and as a blog comment in an effort to spur more dialogue.
You want comments? Here are some comments: 1. Maybe with your next blog post you can explain why it's inappropriate for a grunt to address his commanding officer as "Sir" until he knows him personally, and email it to the Marine Corps. 2. While we're complaining about people "groping for attention", you created a new thread just to announce the fact that you were making a blog post. Why don't you call CNN while you're at it? 3. You come across like you have a large ego, especially with regard to your writing and your own perceived superior viewpoint with regard to capitalized pronouns and proper chatroom etiquette. You are also clearly in love with the idea of railing against the establishment, be it institutions or ideas. You should change your avatar to a picture of Che Guevara, holding a riding crop. We get it. Congratulations on being a big fucking deal. 4. The jury is still out on the last line of your post. If you can't see how people might be offended by your characterization of yourself as Dian Fossey, dutifully watching the co-mingling of unintelligent primates who don't have the brain power to understand why Sir shouldn't be capitalized frivolously, the truth may in fact be closer to the latter part of the sentence. === IC
Quite enjoyed your post - a Master of word and wit.
LMFAO! That is some great shit! *giggles as she walks away*
*clapping* I may just be quoting rule #3 to people! Actually all of the comments seemed accurate. Great way to introduce yourself!
Wow, thank you for that, it was quite um, hilarious. Definitly agree on the part about respect though, there always has to be a level of trust and respect first =)
You're an asshole I could like. Too many people I meet online already have their Cretin Club Card stamped and got the free t-shirt. I love your rules.
i had so much fun reading this. =) Thanks for the smile!
I want to add that 3-B also goes for female subs who do NOT want to play with a man's cyber-psyche. As for the other points, i couldn't agree more. And hello.
you amuse me greatly. *kisses*
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