Johndoeson,

In my opinion you will have to figure it out on your own. People might give you suggestions, but over all you know your wife best. I think that for each woman it would be different. With some women it would be best to talk about it and maybe present it as something new to try in the bedroom just to spice up the love life, for others taking some control works. What worked for me for example was my husband taking control of things. However, I was interested in BDSM and all kinds of fetishes beforehand, at that time it was only on a level of reading stories, but still I was at leas familiar with what it was all about. So when my husband blindfolded me and then tied me up.....I was surprised but excited at the same time. What you also have to figure out is to what level do you want to take it. Some blindfolding and tying up doesn't mean BDSM, remember that. So as I said it is different for each woman. I guess if your wife never took any interest in anything like that before you might want to let her read a book like "The Story of O" or "The Beauty Trilogy" by Ann Rice. Just make sure it is nothing to heavy. And then once she reads it, ask her what she thinks about it. If she liked it then get her to describe exactly what she liked and if she didn't like it then again get her to tell you why she didn't like it. And then you will know more or less how to proceed from there. Good Luck.