i personally don't think You are less than mainstream, Shadoom, let's face it, this is on some level a sexual activity, whether it is a cerebral sexual experience or a physical one. If this were not a sexual issue, we would not be listed in ADULT forums. We could discuss serving your dominant tea in the earshot of children.

Satisfaction can come in SOOO many ways, anyone who says the sex gratification is COMPLETELY not what it is about is....well....i don't even know what to call THAT. i may receive gratification from doing something totally unimportant to a sexual act, but doesn't it all feed into a more base human need?

Just as a disclaimer before i get someone jumping me, i am NOT saying that this type of relationship Dom/me / sub is ALL about sex for me. It is NOT. It is about trust and love and submission but if i didn't get some sexual gratification too would i be at this site? Or would i JUST go to Tammy Wynette's site and sing gloriously, "Stand by Your Man." i would subsribe to Martha Stewart's magazine and learn about whatever sport/hobby/activity my man wanted to participate in and be able to hold a conversation/participate/or perform in whatever capacity he wanted. Not to say that i don't do some of those things too...but if i didn't get SEXUAL gratification out of it too...i would NOT be here.

i believe that anyone who is here gets SOME form of sexual gratification out of what they do or they wouldn't be here.

Just my take on it!

jazz