Shadoom, just because sex is an important part of your relationship does not make it any less valid. There are many forms of Domination and submission beingcompletely physical to the completely mental and everywhere in between.

You do what works for you and if it works, then it's right.

Masterkurt, I must admit that I really admire carolines will to have no will (if that makes any sense) I could not imagine being rented out for sex or what ever deed what have you.

Mainly probably because of a past, non-bdsm related, relationship where my boyfriend at the time tried to sell me to one of his friends when he ran out of drug money and the ensuing terror that followed. I could not be "rented" out or lent without that nightmare coming back to me.