Someone said something to me once that really stuck. They compared BDSM (and life in general) to a buffet. You browse the selection put a little of this and a little of that one your plate and the stuff that you don't want or need you leave behind.

I liked that. It's not just BDSM that is diverse it is life in general though perhaps those involved in BDSM are a little bit more tolerant than those who are not (on average) becuase of the prejudices against us.

It has to be diverse because there are so many activities, fetishes, and ways of doing things that one coule not possibly encompass them all without fear of driving yourself mad!

As for sex, I like sex better when I am tied up or what have you. It is much more fun in my opinion but I do not actually "get off" from the act of being tied up. I just enjoy it. I need some form of sexual contact to have an orgasm but there lies what I am trying to say.

Orgasms are not important to me. I would rather be satisfied mentally having performed some task, done a long session of candle wax or flogging without begging to have it stop, than to have physical sexual pleasure and cumming until I pass out.

I guess you could say I sort of have a mental orgasm.