The place of sex in a D/s-bdsm relationship

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Definately an interesting thread....and one which i'm sure will have different interpretations depending on the individual.

Personally it's the denial of sexual gratification that makes me strive harder during a scene. In saying that, i do believe that some form of orgasm (or sexual relief) is good.....unless the Domme is being particularly nefarious and wants to play mindgames with Her subject

Once i have achieved relief the scene is dead for me, but the denial of that same relief can keep me on edge for hours, days, who knows how long and the closer it gets the harder i tend to push my limits for Her.

In the back of my mind i've always thought that a truly cruel Domina would ensure Her subject masturbates, or otherwise achieves orgasm BEFORE commencing play. Guaranteed it hurts twice as much when not in the right mindspace

Ultimately it's the Dominants right to grant relief, choose to have sex with the sub, or simply walk away......and maybe thats where this thread could combine with the "Chastity" topics posted earlier on