There is a book called Erotic Srrender by Gloria Vann I believe and altho it is written for the wife trying to make her husband the Dominant it offers great suggestions as to how to open your SO up to the lifestyle. One such suggestion is as watching different movies, such as the spanking scene in McClintock or a bondage scene in a normal movie ask questions like do you think she is enjoying that or make suggestions such as wonder what it would be like to do this. She will then offer some feedback on which you might be able to pursue greater in depth conversations about it.

Brys