Thanks to the both of you for the advice. There’s one bit of drake7’s post that really resonates with me: “A note about hypnofetishists, and mc types in general, part of the kick they derive is from a loss of control. Different from a more traditional submissive who participates in power exchange where control is relinquished.” I told that bit to my bf and he agrees too. It always seems to surprise him that even though I writhe a bit under the belt, I don’t make any Houdini-style attempts to get away. He, on the other hand, cannot be trusted around ties. Every time he ties me, usually spread-eagled to the bedposts or something, I can hear him muttering, “Now *me*, I could get out of this. I could wiggle free. Or break this rope,” etc.

So how about this…I could dress myself up in my coolest black latex outfit (he’s never seen it) and surprise him when it seems like an appropriate time. We have a pair of goofy furry handcuffs, and I filed off the safety release this morning while he was in the shower. That might be a bit of a shocker for him, when he realizes he really *has* lost control…

What do you think? If it sounds good, somebody psych me up and tell me to go for it. Like I said, I’m not used to pouncing on people unless I know for sure they’re secretly desperately yearning for what I’m about to do to them…