lily makes some good points p_s and communication is the hub of every good relationship. Oz's suggestions are born out of a great deal of experience too and worth trying.

It is always hard to give advice when the dynamics of a relationship can change quickly and when we are not familiar with how you interact. But if I know one thing it's that most Doms love to play and if you tell him that in a respectful and loving way, he will be more than happy to oblige. I would.