Quote Originally Posted by Katmandu
I really am lost on this subject. It doesn't feel right to me, either to be told to do this, or to question him.
While true submission is a complete deference of will, at the heart of BDSM relationships is the idea that Master leads, slave follows. And I think you're correctly interpreting that debasing yourself independently of him forces you to take control of situations when you prefer to take the orders and follow them.

I liken it to a Sergeant telling a Private that he orders him to give commands. I don't think your Master is a switch or a submissive, I think he's probably has a fantasy that can't be achieved without inadvertently destroying who you are-- and that's the person he fell in love with, so while it will turn him on, it will probably erode the relationship as well.

I hope it's not an impasse for the two of you, but ultimately, as pointed out earlier, this probably breaks the 'sane' part of the equation for you. Perhaps his fantasy will evolve to something that works for both of you (and third parties).

Good luck with it,