-Do you feel the urge to dom and sub a single person at the same time? Maybe at different times during the same scene?

Interesting, I think Dark and I tend to complete a scene in set roles so, for example, last night I was very much the dom and Dark the sub...but this is driven by day to day or hour to hour need and mood. Primairly I take a controlling role but there are days (like today) where I want nothing more to surrender myself to her whims. We rarely change midway through the same scene, that said the early morning tussel in bed can go either way...

-Do you dom and sub at the same time, but with different partners (I'm a sub for this person, but a dom for this person)?

Difficult to answer this question, but before Dark and I committed to one another there are those I would definitely be sub to and those i'd definitely be D to, so I guess I would have to say yes. I still find it difficult to dom male subs, but its something I have done online in the past. (which raises another question, a lot of Switchs tend to be bi...is this true of the wider world?)

-Do you take turns with your partner (tonight, I'll be the boss, tomorrow night, you be the boss)?

We dont take turns to any set timetable, that feels unnatural to me...forced, and not in the good sense. 5 days out of 7 I tend to be D but...again, that depends on the mood and needs of the moment.

-Do you feel like a dom/sub for long periods of time, then feel the need to switch again (i.e. feeling like being the sub for weeks/months/years then kind of feeling dom-my for awhile)?

I cant pretend this isnt an issue I dont think about a lot. I entered this world as a sub, and had anyone suggested to me that I would not only feel comfortable domming but have deep desires to do it during that time I would not have believed it. So, I have to ask myself what happens to my relationship with Dark if I decide I have to return to my sub status...or, perhaps more worrying...if I lose my sub instincts...

My love for Dark is so complete and utterly beyond words that I am sure she would make any sacrifice to maintain our lifestyle, but I would not ask her to continue a relationship which had changed in its nature at its core without some serious discussion.


That all said, I'm just too greedy to ever see a time where I would give up one or the other of my switch nature...

Pain XxX