The problem is not "how to go about getting her too" it's how to go about getting you into a state of mind that you can be confident enough to just do what you want to do. You don't have to do anything except tie her up. All she can do is say no f'n way. Then you talk about it. There is no trick in doing any of this it is a state of mind on the dominants part. You MUST believe that you are in control and that you have both your interests in mind. Having said that. You must "be " in control. You are responsible for making her safe, making her feel safe, and keeping her safe. That means you 'always" have every detail planed out. That is. How to cut her loose in a hurry, say mother drops in and so on. A sub must know , you are in control, but trust that control ; it is taking her to scary enjoyable places, and bringing her back unscathed. Always be pre-pared, and warned, things do go wrong once in a doms life, and it is a scary and valuable lesson.