This is such a hard subject, just because of the fact that I think the definition is different in every relationship.

I consider myself a slave and so does Master. The only thing is though, that he allows me to communicate to him anything I feel uneasy about. By that I mean if there is something that is bothering me I tell him and we discuss it. He realizes that when I'm happy then he's extra happy so it's beneficial to him that I be happy and fulfilled. Short of being deathly ill, injured, or in the presence of my hubby though, I do whatever he asks me to do, even when what he asks seems entirely impossible.

I also don't agree that a slave has no control. I think that in order for any D/s relationship to work there needs to be that illusion of control at least. Can you imagine being a slave to your Master and later experiencing that he is abusive? Does a slave not have any control or say in what happens to him/her? Can she not leave the relationship if she chooses to just because she is a slave? I don't think that this is the case. I do believe that a good Master wants a slave that wants to serve him and therefore, in letting her have that bit of control, the relationship is more fulfilling. Mind you this is all just my opinion.

I guess for me the definition of slave brings to mind the image of an animal, someone who is not cared for in the least. These relationships to me, are all about choice...the slave choosing to serve the Master. In being able to make a choice, doesn't there have to be some sort of control?

I don't know where I'm going with this, and maybe it's the wrong thread for it, but I consider myself a slave even though I do have a small bit of control.