Quote Originally Posted by Ruby
Hmmmm... interesting thoughts.

Even defining those words opens a can of worms. :-)

What has been defined as a slavemissive, many would call a slave or sub.

Call yourself what you want and thrive in your relationship.

As for me, I prefer the term "pet".

I'm so not submissive, yet I'm not the domme in my relationship with my husband.
And because my husband takes charge when we play, many would call my part
the submissive or bottom.

I'm more a wild creature, like a tigress, that's tame only for him, because I choose to be, not because he "tamed" me.

While my sweet Nat, can play the role of sub, he's really more a pet, too.
Nail on the proverbial head Ruby. Though the question was submitted in the 'questions for subs' that's the point I've been aching to make. We had a similar conversation among some of the doms and it came down, for me, to the same thing. Trying to define the roles beyond the broadest, conventionally accepted, terms... is limiting. Everyone needs to find their own niche, and regardless of terminology (and sometimes despite the definitions,) revel in it.