ok sweetie,

the variations are as great as the differences between different relationships, it all depends on the individuals involved,and the limitations they set for themselves, nothing says you have to reliquish your life, some people only D/s during prearanged scenes even,

for myself, i and my owner live very normal everyday lives most all of the time, yet, i am under his dominance 24/7, all day all nite every day etc, even when he isnt standing before me, this doesnt mean i dont have friends or go to the mall or yoga with my sister, i even go to college, i dont sleep in a cage or live in a locked room, my owners will is my leash and collar when in public, my husband/dom/owner and i dont do prearanged scenes so much with defined beginings and endingss, he plans things out a lot dont get me wrong, but my perspective isnt directly needed for his masications and the day progressess as he arranges, and if plans fall through he is very adaptable winks

but when the time's right, when he wants or desires, he brings me into focus as his property real quick, one snap of the fingers or a hand sign or a glance and "poof" or even a casual word, or order in a text message and its as if i am on my knees before him