I can say from personal experience that I won't tolerate it for long. For example, I was to call every night at 9 p.m. Half the time, he didn't answer when I called and didn't call me back. A few times when I called later because I had to put my son to bed, he jumped all over me, accusing me of being "out with the girls." He didn't like the tone of my voice after that when I told him that if I'd been "out with the girls" he wouldn't likely hear from me until 3 a.m., not 10 p.m. ...but the relationship didn't last very long because I felt like he was full of shit and a total waste of my time. "Do as I say, not as I do" doesn't work with me and neither does "because I said so." It never has. Ask my mom. Seriously.

I don't want or expect equality in my relationship, but I won't tolerate absolute nonsense in the form of being scolded or punished for something that is clearly not my fault and something that he doesn't put much effort into maintaining himself. It's insulting and disrespectful.