Often times in my experience a dominant that doesnt lead by example isnt really a dominant at all. (believe you me Ive had a few)
Now that being said there is a certian leeway when it comes to being playful in the bedroom etc, the ole "youve been a naughty naughty girl havent you" thing followed by some fun is wholely different.
And as FRH and Hopper said I also dont expect "equality" far from it, but mutual respect is a must!! Our love and trust is built on it which means we think of the other person first before we think of ourselves.
We give each other our sacred devotion.