I have some experience but not a whole lot and I only recently attended a scene event. I tried out some toys and was asked if I wanted to try being on receiving end of something leathery but I politely declined.

My POV is that I want to live out my dominant and somewhat sadistic urges. I am also to a much lesser extent a masochist but I am not submissive. Whether it is a drill instructor or a leathered up mistress I have little interest in and have found that I am just not wired to obey authority figures or find anything stimulating about obedience.

While I am interested in experiencing the sensation of pain I am not interested in surrendering control. If I want to feel pain, I'll probably just try something on myself.