melior,

Welcome to the site and this wonderful lifestyle.

A good way to get started, as mentioned above, is to get involved in the forums here. Ask questions, respond to threads, get to know the others on the site and give them a chance to get to know you as well.

You might also think about coming into the chat room here. There is a lot of just fun and games, but everyone is willing to answer serious questions too. There are some experienced people there who will be able to answer whatever you come up with, or be able to point you in the right direction to get the answers you need.

Finding a Dom/me online or in real life is going to be a challenge. Male submissives seem to outnumber the available Dominants by a large margin. Make yourself stand out, in a good way of course. Be open and willing but not to the point of desperation.

I see you state that you are in the Rocky Mountains. If you are anywhere near Denver there are several lifestyle groups there that are very active and welcoming of new people. There are events every weekend that would be a great way for you to meet new people and perhaps make that connection you are looking for. If you are not near Denver, there are other active groups all up and down the Mountain West you could get in contact with to attend their gatherings.

Good luck.

SW