bdsm checklist

[Arria]

I oppose putting such a list as part of the profile as well.

We have something like that on a German forum.

If you use it is optional. But it turned out that using it attracts dumb come-ons from people who don´t give a fuck about you as a person, just because you happen to like the same things.

The list should be used between two people who have in some way "connected". I also agree that it changes regularly. That is because people develop (hopefully).

I don´t see as much trouble with simply stating your hard limits/complete no-gos in your profile, though.

[ShadePayne]

I feel a checklist should only be completed between two people that have agreed and commited themselevs to each other for short or long term periods of time. For if your someone serious (I will even go as far to say "The One") you will know my limits hard and soft and they will not have to posted on the site for every.....Hairy, Dick, and Tom to read....ohhh sorry........Tom, Dick and Harry to perv...like not enough of that doesn't all ready happen.