Unspoken rules of BDSM

[Carpe Coma]

1: Everyone interested only in things less 'extreme' than you is a poser.

2: Everyone interested in anything more 'extreme' than you is crazy.

3: Take all stories and advice with a grain of salt.

4: 'BDSM' does not change nor excuse human behavior. If it is dickish, rude, and/or stupid to do normally, it is still dickish, rude, and/or stupid.

5: You are not a special snowflake.

6: There is no rule 6.

7: What works for you will disgust someone else. The reverse is also true. Remember that before you type/speak.

8: There will never be a universally agreed upon distinction between submissive and slave.

9: Ditto for dominant and master.

10: 'Training' is by and large bullshit used as a way to get NSA fun.

11: Yes, someone else gets off on the same things you do. Your desires are not unique.

12: There is porn of it. (also known as rule 34)

13: Something will go wrong. No amount of safety measures will prevent this.

14: A large percentage of people are just trying to get laid and/or get attention.

15: 'BDSM' will be used as a catch all term for anything that seems the slightest bit not mainstream.

16: Everyone is motivated by their own self interest. Even you. Remember that next time someone offers to do you a 'favor'.

17: You can contextualize any action as submissive or dominant.

18: Money is a touchy subject.

19: Male dominants must be either straight or gay.

20: Switches are simply 'confused'.