When i was 15 i started reading Harry Potter fanfiction and came across a Remus/Sirius fic involving bondage (good lord i've never actually typed it out i was a weird kid lol) and i found it really interesting. Unfortunately, the guy i was dating at the time was a senior and popular and i couldn't figure out what he was doing with a nerd like me, and it turned out what he was doing was exploiting my desperate desire to escape the bullying and feel accepted. He would remind me pretty much constantly that i was lucky to be with him and took my virginity while he was apparently still seeing another girl. When he found out about my kinks he used them as blackmail against me and said that if i didn't submit to him he'd tell everybody what a freak i was. So for a year i was his unwilling slave until he left for college and left me broken and with a bad case of Stockholm Syndrome. i didn't tell anybody about it until i was 18 and in college myself when i decided to try again. i played with a couple Doms and Dommes casually for a while, then got with my last Dom who i was with for a year. He's the one who taught me that submission and self-respect went hand-in-hand and i'll always be thankful to him for it. i still have a road ahead of me in that department, but i'm working on it with my current boyfriend/Dom-in-training :P