Quote Originally Posted by wingsofanangel
its just a struggle to deal with my feelings sometimes... as I was not raised to hang around a place like this... I hope that does not come across as offensive... its just hard to justify something when life was once so black and white for me.. and now there is so much grey matter.

Sera
I too am sad to see Katie leave and how much that has touched Tojo's heart. I don't know either of them - or you Sera - but have come to know each of you through your posts and somehow feel vested in your stories.

Sera - I think we are in a similar place in that we acknowledge these submissive feelings and are trying to find out how to incorporate them into our real life. Is it our little secret? Do we eventually "come out?" Tojo says it too, that sometimes it's hard to have these feelings when the rest of the world looks down at you.

I can only say that since I'm a lifetime older than you, Sera, don't look back. Acknowledge what you know is a part of you. You have such a wonderful spirit and it's hard when those little doubts come creeping up on you. I wonder if Tojo would take away what he had with Katie in order to avoid the heartache? Probably not. (hope i'm not making any unwarranted assumptions here...)

This seems like a safe place to discuss uncertanties, to ask questions, to learn. Ok, done rambling................