Taking the First Steps

[cherryatom]

I just started trying out vrl pain things too. My first task involved clothes pins too. I use them for laundry. I wish I had your problem with them popping off. What I would recommend is maybe putting athletic tape on the tips. I tried this because my had little teeth (lord knows why) but when I put them on my breasts they break the skin. So I had a task which involved attaching the clothes pins to a string and pulling all ten off at the same time. Well with the athletic tape on the ends they WOULD NOT COME OFF. They were glued to my body even after I unhinged them they still stuck to my skin. It was like ripping off a bandaid for each one. I don't know if you want to level up so quickly but that's an easy at home quick fix to keep the clothes pins on.

I hoped that helps. I also had a related question of my own. Like I said I"m knew to this and after a particularly rough session where I might have been punished I feel an intense desire to cuddle. It feels oddly inappropriate though. Does anyone else have this feeling or know why someone would want to cuddle after being punished?

[moco]

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I hoped that helps. I also had a related question of my own. Like I said I"m knew to this and after a particularly rough session where I might have been punished I feel an intense desire to cuddle. It feels oddly inappropriate though. Does anyone else have this feeling or know why someone would want to cuddle after being punished?[/QUOTE]

wow this is something that I have read about. But it is a somewhat common occurrence with subs. It is called "sub drop" there is an article about it that might be helpful for you:

here is part of an article from another site

D/s is all encompassing in the sense that its not just about scenes, and highs, and fun, and pain, and control, and all the exciting things we do. Its about real people, and their needs, and wants. The intense activities that are part of a D/s or BDSM relationship do sometimes have their downsides as well. This article will deal with one of those downsides. Sub Drop.

After all the emotional highs of the elevation of a submissive into subspace, the return to normality can have a profound effect on both Dominant and submissive. Each in their own way has reached a level rarely achieved in daily life, and which, very often, neither is prepared for.

Sub drop; the coming down, the return to normality, can happen quickly, or slowly. It can be a nice experience, or a bad one. And the effects, good or bad, can last almost no time at all, or they can go on for hours, even days

if you want to read the whole article it can be found either by googling "sub drop" or by going to seekers.org.uk/sub drop.htm

I hope this helps

[Mairead]

Like I said I"m knew to this and after a particularly rough session where I might have been punished I feel an intense desire to cuddle. It feels oddly inappropriate though. Does anyone else have this feeling or know why someone would want to cuddle after being punished?

Thanks for the reply. I haven't played since my last post, but I'll keep your suggestions in mind!

And as for your question, I think after I was punished, I'd need to be cuddled and comforted and reassured that I've been forgiven and the dominant and I are good again. I think I'd need to be shown that I'm still cared for. I haven't actually experienced this, but I really think that's how I'd react.

Hope it helps!

[Mairead]

I got to have another scene last night. *grins* I was told to get clothespins and toothpaste. Before last night, I had not used toothpaste other than on my teeth. I have seen the reactions that people have in Truth or Dare when toothpaste is mentioned, so I was pretty nervous. It didn’t help that the Dominant was enjoying my nervousness and was trying to make me squirm. It’s still amazing to me that someone can influence my emotions and behaviour to such an extent. I was completely flustered, just by her smirk. I wonder if that is a feeling that I will ever get used to.

I’m still enjoying the clothespins! This time I was instructed to put the forest of clothespins all over my inner and outer labia. It was a weird feeling, uncomfortable but not that bad really.

After the clothespins came off, it was time for the toothpaste. Since I was using it on myself, I was using dabs of it, but I actually really liked the tingly sensation. At one point, I was squirming a bit, but it never got to the point of being uncomfortable. Even when I was told to put a finger inside myself, and I (unthinkingly) used the finger that had been applying the toothpaste. Maybe my reactions would change if I used more toothpaste, globs instead of dabs, but as it was the toothpaste was great!

And between the clothespins and the toothpaste, I came hard, twice. And once again, I don’t usually come that easily from just clitoral stimulation. But I was almost cumming as soon as I turned the vibe on. At this point, the Dominant declared that I’m a “pain slut in training”. And at this point I can’t argue. The pain definitely worked to build up an orgasm without any other stimulation. But there are still so many sensations that I haven’t experienced yet, we both like the idea of me being “in training”.

I have been hesitant to actually admit that I have these tendencies. I think it is because until very recently, I’ve always thought of submission and the pain/pleasure mix as abstracts. Without a way to actually try them out (and without a Dominant telling me to try), they were concepts that had no bearing on how I saw myself. But now, they’re becoming real and I can’t really deny the feelings it brings out in me. It has changed the way I view my kink, finally getting a chance to figure out what I actually like.

Oh, and during the scene, I had also been instructed to tie myself up with rope (well, except for my hands). I thought you might enjoy a visual of the rope marks! (I'm glad I took those pictures last night....the marks have already faded.)

Thanks for reading!

[jeanne]

It didn’t help that the Dominant was enjoying my nervousness and was trying to make me squirm. It’s still amazing to me that someone can influence my emotions and behaviour to such an extent. I wonder if that is a feeling that I will ever get used to.

I haven't. Thank goodness!

Thanks for sharing your experiences with us, Mairead - I can't wait to see the pictures when they are approved.